Wednesday, June 01, 2011

Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

CHAPTER 9- Meeting The Groom
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2 weeks later...

'Mann yeh sahebji jane hai sabji phir bhi na samjhe ishare....' as my phone belts out this recent popular Sufi song in the middle of the office, everyone turns around in their places to see where it's coming from. I find myself swearing under my breath at that point, as I struggle to find my phone in my overstuffed bag.

"Hello!".....All I get to hear is an excited rumble which closely resembled my mother's voice.

"Ma, What's wrong? I cant make out anything at all"

"Arey, a wonderful proposal has come for you. The Boy stays in US. He's a computer Engineer and the youngest son of a retired Air Force Wing Commander. His elder brother is married and works in Delhi. The family's absolutely perfect. We have already spoken to them twice over the phone. They want to meet you today in the evening. Their younger son is in Kolkata for a few more days. So they don't want to waste time," my mother manages to gush out all this in practically a single breath.

As I am left reeling under all this information overload, my mother orders me," Visit a Salon before coming home and do something about your hair.....and the phone goes click indicating the end of our conversation.

What happened to the fact that it takes years to find the perfect match?
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Precisely at 8.00 pm sharp we arrive at Calcutta Club to meet the groom and his family.

We seat ourselves comfortably and wait for them to arrive. I have dressed myself in a simple salwar kameez much to my mother's dismay. But i wanted to feel comfortable, after all this was my first meeting with any potential 'Boy's Family.' Hence i didn't want to dress up too much and feel out of place. For me being comfortable and at ease is very important specially when there's an interview about to be conducted soon. My hands feel clammy before every interview, so i am guessing this time too it will be same as well.

As i resign myself to the inevitable that fate has dealt out for me, I find my sister suddenly whispering fervently to me and pointing at someone behind me. I turn around in my seat and end up looking directly into the eyes of an Indian version of an Adonis.

"Didi, it's them" Anisha tries to point out to me.

"Yeah Right! Good Joke....Why on earth would..." my sentence trails off as I find my parents getting up to greet the same group which had Mr Adonis in it.

"Good evening everyone, this is my daughter Aditi," I hear my father saying this to the group.

And in the next second I find everyone staring at me. I somehow manage to let out a weak smile in their general direction as I keep praying that this is not some kind of joke that my fate is playing on me. I mean how can a guy this gorgeous even agree to meet me? Aren't they supposed to reject females like me in a heartless way???

Just as I try and calm myself into thinking that probably Mr. Adonis was just maybe a cousin and the actual guy is outside attending a call or maybe couldn't make it, when my father clears his throat to bring me back to the present ( I hadnt realized i was staring in at him open mouthed while these thoughts were running at the speed of 1GB/second through my mind)

"Aditi, this is Rohit Bose, the guy your supposed to meet"

I turn towards the direction where my father was pointing while introducing and find myself sinking into the depths of his dark eyes again.

I suddenly have this weird sensation and feel myself falling into darkness....
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"Didi, are you alright?" The anxious face of Anisha peered over me as I realized I was lying prostrate on a sofa with my head on her lap. As my conscience returns a bit more clearly, I notice the face of several people all looking at me with various sets of expressions.

"OMG! Did I actually faint in front of these people?" Shit! Talk about embarrassment. Not to mention that i had fainted right in front of this Greek God! I then totally felt like becoming Sita Mayya so that the earth could open up swallow me completely!.......Oh well atleast it will get me off the hook.
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I was so sure after the unintentional debacle on my part, these people would totally turn tail and run as far as possible. But I suppose it was just not my day.

So the next thing i know, I was asked to show him around the club. In other words, I had to get to know him.

What I just couldn't understand was why was I being made to feel so inferior to this man purposely, when in the end he would say no in any case? And my confidence level was already quite fragile when it came to men like him! Giving in to the worst that might occur, I followed him through the door which led to the portico.

Man! I could totally feel the heads turning wherever we were going. Naturally they were looking at him. I was practically invisible next to him. This was the man I was supposed to marry??? What were my parents thinking??

Hang on? Have I described my 'might- be beau'?....Oops sorry!

Rohit Bose is 5'11.5. Fair. Has an air of supreme success about him. Can manage to look like a model even in a plain kurta pajama. So far he has displayed nothing but impeccable manners. Apparently has a degree from IIT and then Stanford. Works in one of the biggest blue chip companies in US. He is also the youngest achiever in his company and has got 2 quick promotions within 3 years of joining. Has his own 4000 sq ft flat overlooking the city gardens(complete with a chauffeur, valet and cook). Loves sports of all kind. Oh and can cook the most amazing pasta dishes!

This brings me back to my original question....what is he doing here with me??

Dal main zaroor kuch kala hai!

Am sure he is one of those people you read about in the papers, who marry sidhi sadhi Indian girls to use them as maids in US and most of the time they are usually already married to a firangi but agrees to take on an Indian bride just to please their parents.


But main bhi apni baap ki beti nehi if i don't first tell him a few home truths about marrying a girl for the wrong reasons! Huh!




Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

REVISED CHECK LIST- 8
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OK! Please don't take my previous check list too seriously. It was basically the work of two teenagers during a hormone overdrive case. Well, partly the romance novels are also to blame. Anyway here's a new list of the present 'practical' me.

Check List
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# Well Educated
# Smart
# Can Cook
# Sensitive
# Respectful
# Good sense of humor
# Caring/ Loving
# Romantic
# Good with kids
# Loves to travel
# Supportive
# Should believe in giving space

Sounds boring right? Well growing up does that to you!

Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

CHAPTER 7- On the marriage front
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Man! I had no idea that people in India were so eager to get married. It's just been 2 days since the advertisement was displayed in the paper and already the phone is ringing incessantly off the hook, my dad's constantly checking mails, while my mother is trying her best to handle the phone calls.

Everyday nowadays, I dread coming back home and listen to endless discussions about, "Is a singho rashi compatible with a tula rashi or is it better with a makar rashi?"
Or
"Aditi do you want to marry a Doctor or an Engineer?"
Or
"Is Australia a safe place to settle in post marriage for Indians?"

And so the debate continued back and forth!

The only one who was enjoying all this madness was Anisha.
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"Thanks for coming" Dia told me as she hugged me tightly in front of Barista Park Street.

I had played the truant during lunch break at office to go and meet Dia and her future husband. 15 minutes into the meeting and I was very impressed. That guy was every bit as lovable as she had mentioned. And I was truly and honestly very happy for her.

The only problem was it got me wishing into having a similar kind of man in my life too. But am not too worried because after all ' purey shiddat ke sath agar dilse kuch mangoge to puri kayanat ki har zarra use tumse milaneki sazish main jud jayegi!'

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

CHAPTER 5- Back to present day
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"Anishaaaaaa! Shut up!"

"What?"My sister asked me with the most cherubic smile possible.

"Am not getting married any time soon...OK?"

"Why not?"This time it was my dad who asked me this.

"But baba am not ready for marriage. I need to be a bit more stable in my job before i even think about settling down."

"You are already earning reasonably well and your investments look sound enough as well. So what exactly are you waiting for?" inquired my father.

Had i mentioned that my dad was cool? Scratch that. He just isn't cool anymore.

"Dear, at your age i was already married," this was supplied by my mother.

"But Ma, that was ages ago!" I cried.

"So? Girls should be married off at the right age or it becomes difficult to find a good groom."

"And it's not like that you will find a man the moment you start looking. Sometimes it takes years to find the perfect match," squeaked my sister in her most serious, grown-up voice.

"Where did you pick up these crappy lines?"I ask my sister.

"Sasural Simmar Ka," she replies promptly.

Seriously she totally amazes me at times. But unfortunately for the all the wrong things. "Ma, you should totally disallow Anisha from watching any more of those daily soaps."

"But she's right dear!"

My dad the ever diplomatic and tactful said, "How about if we start looking for a man and the decision to accept him or not totally depends on you. Moreover as Anisha has pointed out, it might actually takes ages to find the right person. So you leave the intricacies to us and you take the final call. That way you can concentrate on your work without hampering your schedule too much."

What was i to say after this?
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2 weeks later my advertisement on the Sunday Telegraph Matrimonial column looked something like this:-

' Wanted suitable Bengali groom for their elder daughter, 24/5.2', MBA,working with a reputed MNC. Proffession and caste no bar, But the boy should be a minimum Post Graduate. Please contact with details and photo yo Roy@gmail.com.'

I had arrived at the arranged marriage market.

"Nehiiiiiiiiiiiiii....................!!!"

Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

CHAPTER 4:- Dia Sanyal
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I met Dia in Class I in Loreto House where we were both studying at that time. The first time i noticed her, it was in our Hindi class. The reason why I noticed her was because our Hindi teacher had asked her a question, to which she replied in Bengali while the rest of the class tittered. That day I came to know that I and Dia were the only two Bengali girls taking Hindi as our Second language in that batch.

Much to my chagrin even my Hindi turned out to be a real dud. After a week of continuous humiliation, Dia and I started conversing amongst ourselves in Hindi and also at home since we were both in the same boat.So naturally we became friends in the then unknown world of a strange new language.

I guess this information about my background provides light as to why my lines are sprinkled with Hindi so much. Old habits die hard!

As the years passed we became close friends. And we had our 'firsts' together only, i.e. first drink, fag, porn etc. We called ourselves 'The kindered spirits'!

After our 10th boards, we genuinely had a difficult time coping with everything because we had gone on our separate ways after such a long time. We were so used to being together all the time that suddenly it started feeling scary to be on our own.

Dia had taken Humanities and had decided to stay on in loretto while I succumbing under family pressure took up commerce in La Martiniere for Girls.

But despite all our hectic schedule we managed to stay close.

Whenever there was a guy problem/heart aches/secret crushes, we told the other person first. We were like each other's 'secret keeper.'

But today after her phone call, I suddenly felt alone and bereft of my oldest friend....as if I was losing her for the second time... but this time managing to be in contact might prove to be more difficult.



Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

CHAPTER 3 :- Present Day
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It's now 6 years since I have left school. In the meanwhile, I have completed both my graduation and post graduation. I am currently working in an MNC with a reasonably good salary for the past few months.
At my work place my boss kind of sucks and the clients drives us up the wall. My female colleagues are bitchy while the male ones want personal favour in return for any kind of help they render. But I love my job inspite of all this since it gives me a sense of freedom and independence. I am the type of girl who likes planning for her own finances and investments. It gives me a sense of achievement to be able to see my money grow.
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One evening when I came back home after a grueling day in office, I got a call from one of my closest friend Dia.

" Hey Dia! what's up? Long time ...huh?"

" Hey am doing fine. How are things at your end?"

"Fine"

"So when are you coming to kolkata for a visit? Ask those struck-up bosses of yours to give you a few days leave. Then we'll have a total Dhamal just like old times!"

"Am already in town dear. My mum called up a few days back and asked me to take leave for atleast 2 weeks"

" What??? When did you come? And how come you didn't call me and tell me earlier? Is everything OK at home?"

"Yes. Everything's fine. Mum just wanted me to come and check out a few potential guys for marriage thats all."

"Oh! Oh!Poor You...It must have been a really scary experience"

"Well to be honest, the idea about meeting guys had initially freaked me out...But the moment I met Deepak, I somehow felt this instant attraction. And he made me feel so comfortable when I was groping around for the right things to say....We ended up chatting for hours and we had the same kind of opinions in almost all the topics....it was like kismat connection ...you know?"

" Bitch! You are telling me all this now? How long has this rendezvous been going on?"

"Umm...for a week!"

"Kutti!Give me the minutest details of this guy OK?And remember you cant marry him unless I approve...Got that?"

"Arey baba....Thats why I called you. I want you to meet him this weekend.So keep yourself free"

"Sure. Now Shoot!"

"Well Deepak is an MCA from Gurgaon. He loves Sushi and Chinese food. He is currently working in Anubhav Technologies Ltd in Mumbai and has his own flat as well. He is the only son of his parents who live in Kolkata. His sister has married a doctor and living in Bangaluru presently. His salary is good and the feedback we received about him from some common friends has also turned out to be great."

"Hmm...So far he sounds just perfect! Does he dance?"

"Yes but he's not that great....Oops his call is in waiting....talk to ya later!"

"Arey wait..." The phone had hung up.

My mum comes from the kitchen with my masala chai and enquires who was calling.

"It was Dia. Looks like her marriage has been fixed...and she sounded smitten. She Couldn't finish the call though as her would be fiancé was calling up."

"Wow! Thats good news. I must call up Mrs. Sanyal and congratulate her", said my mother.

"But I am still in shock. It was so sudden. Am not sure how I am feeling about the entire thing," I complained to my mother.

My sister who can be quite a pest at times suddenly piped up, "Ma, don't you think it's high time we started thinking about getting Didi married off as well?"

I could have killed Anisha ( my sister) at that moment!

Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

Chapter 2:- Growing Up!
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I was born and brought up here in Kolkata itself. So basically I have known most of the people I know, my entire life. And frankly at times its difficult to break out of molds cast by these people. What i mean is, I have to be this perfect girl in front of them when basically I am not really a saint.

I know! I know! Being a virgin at 24 is next to becoming a nun at this era but what I meant was that I like drinking when am out with friends. I fag from time to time and sometimes you can also find me in hookah bars. Its not like I am doing any kind of 'Paap' you know! But kaun samjaye is zalim duniya ko! Sigh! The only thing good about all this is that I have totally supportive parents who have thankfully managed to progress from their times to mine quite satisfactorily! Although like most mums, even my mom gets a wee bit paranoid at times but my dad's kinda cool!

Anyway so, during my entire school life the only thing which really fascinated me was dancing. I remember turning on the TV in the sultry afternoons during school breaks to practice the dance moves. I was never allowed to formally learn any dance form....thanks to my mum!


I was quite adept in sports, used to hate studying and was pretty much average in everything else! During my school life, my self confidence used to be at all time low for God knows what strange reasons. I was perpetually shy of even looking at boys!(but that could also be because I always studied in a girls school...thanks to my dad)

But as I moved on to college, I started transforming from an ugly duckling to a duck if not a swan! I became bolder, more sure of myself in various little ways even I had not thought possible.

For once in my life people actually started listening to me, instead of the other way round. I also started making a huge number of friends(from both sexes) which were startlingly absent during my initial years, when I had maximum 1 or 2 friends at a time.

I was definitely changing and even I could feel that inside me.


Come Fall In Love WIth Me...

PART I:- ADITI ROY
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CHAPTER 1:- Introducing Myself
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Hi! I am Aditi Roy. I am 24 years old. I am dusky with big eyes and am petite (Don't you dare call me little, chutki or anything which demeans my size!). My hair is curly but i prefer to call it wavy (I had heard that wavy hair signifies a true Bong beauty....whatever that means!) and no matter which hair product I try, I have never managed to resemble even remotely, the actresses or models from the glossy fashion magazines. I am a bit on the healthier side but definitely not fat...atleast thats what my friends tell me (except my dear little sister).


So In another 3 months I will become 25 but believe it or not I am still single! I have never had a boyfriend and I have never been kissed in my entire life. My cousins from US think that I am a bit of a joke to be single at 24. But what can I do??? It's not like that I have never tried to get a boy friend but somehow koi pasand hi nehi ata!

No thats not entirely true. I cant lie in my own story. Ok here's the real thing.... The guys I like either do not realise that i exist or they turn out to be full fledged psychos. On the other hand I seem to attract the attention of the biggest freaks on loser-ville!

Basically I am this ' gur dekha makhi jaise fit ho gaya kind of girl' for alluring in hordes the weirdest of the lot or the type of guys i totally seem to detest. Sadly these are the only guys who fall for me left, right and centre!

Hmm, I suppose it means am not too unpleasant to look at. Come on! I mean if I had been ugly none of these guys would have liked me right? Even weird guys have a pretty girl-radar in them! Not that I am pretty but quite passable by usual standards I believe.


Ok! What else do i need to tell you?

Oh yes, here are a few more stuff about me:-I like making plans but unfortunately hardly any of my plan materializes. But I keep making plans anyhow because it makes me feel I am in control. I am mostly practical. At times cynical too. But I can be plain crazy at times and a complete daredevil when am in the mood. I like helping people in general.

I am a big romantic at heart and I just read up anything which has the word 'LOVE' in it! Something which most people don't realize about me ever is that I am quite filmy by nature.

So essentially, I am sweet, happy go lucky types, a big believer of Karma, I like to be in control, romantic, sarcastic, lazy yet responsible, I get along with most people, am quite an optimist and filmy.

Ok, so enough about me for now. You all will get to know me quite well enough by the end of this story anyhow...so lets keep some things under wraps for the time being!


Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Brishti...


As i sit here on this chair overlooking the balcony in this sweltering heat.... am awaiting the much needed rain which has been due for quite sometime. I hope the rain brings with it the relief which i have been in search of for a while now....

Monday, April 04, 2011

Insights

The other day while I was trying to get up on a crowded metro, an old man who was trying to get down from the train actually fell near my feet due to excessive crowd jostling near the compartment doors.... i tried to help him get up but he was too heavy for me to help on my own but luckily the people around rushed to help! But as the train pulled away from the platform, I noticed that the other people too had deserted the old man and that he was left standing near a pillar all by himself looking helpless.


At that point I actually felt guilty that maybe i should have stayed back to help the poor person up the stairs or at least till the ticket barriers but then I realized that I could not have done much on my own and the person was not seriously hurt and also i was getting late as well. The time being the most important factor here. I suppose i belong to the class of people who wants to help but never does much about it.

All this led me to think that maybe in our race against time we are overlooking our duties towards the society. We are so busy running against everything and everyone that we have some how stopped appreciating the people around us. How many times in our lives have we actually stopped and said to our parents and grandparents that we love them? We humans actually have very short memory spans and an amazing tendency to take things for granted.

Right now if the situation is so bad....what will it be like in say another 20 odd years?Someday even we will be old and frail and maybe just as helpless....will then people just bypass us and carry on walking, pretending we are just a part of the scenery? I shudder to think about the future.... a future we ourselves are helping to create!

Sunday, March 06, 2011

Love Letters- I

This is the end result of reading too many chick-lits and romance novels at one go. I know it’s a bit mushy and cheesy at times…but what the hell!

To Jeremy,

Not sure but why,

I keep dreaming of you by and by.

Unconsciously you hover in my thoughts,

Your the first person I think of when I am lost.

You are slowly filling my senses,

I think it’s time I dropped my pretences.

I have tried too long to ignore you,

I have fought too hard to erase you.

No longer I want to run away,

No longer I want you to go away.

You make me feel complete; you make me feel beautiful,

That too in a way I had not thought possible.

I remember your kisses,

I imagine your touches.

Your blazing caress

Ignites me like lighted matches.

I want to be with you,

Baby no more do I wanna resist you.

Let’s not tarry anymore,

Be with me just like before!

I promise I will love you forever,

I promise we will be always together.

Baby you are divine,

Just remain and always be mine!

Love Rachael

I might add an alternative ending to these verses sometime soon.